Review: Vivien Horler
The Things We Never Say, by Elizabeth Strout (Viking/Penguin)
In primary school, in geography – we’re going back a bit – we had to use fine-nibbed pens dipped into black ink to draw maps. It was careful and painstaking work – you couldn’t rub anything out and didn’t want – literally – to blot your copybook.
This map image rose when thinking about Elizabet Strout’s The Things We Never Say. It’s delicate, fine, small – and yet tells us a lot about the world and ordinary people as they trundle through it.
Artie Dam is a high school history teacher in his 50s. He lives in a house which had belonged to his parents-in-law, on the coast in Massachusetts, and he likes to go out in his sailboat. He married well – his father was a caretaker of three small apartment blocks, but his wife Evie’s parents were a bit more upmarket – and Evie inherited the waterside home.
We see Artie in the classroom, a caring, perceptive teacher watching out for any kind of psychological bullying and pulling students up short on it.
Evie is a family therapist and their son Rob, who is very bright, studied at MIT and earns more than twice his father’s salary.
All normal, middle class, fine.
But it turns out Artie and Evie battled to have a child, and it was a great joy when Evie became pregnant during a holiday trip to London. All is going swimmingly.
Things turn upside down when Rob, at 17, is involved in a terrible car accident – under extremely unfortunate circumstances – in which his girlfriend is killed. Legally things are settled, but the family dynamics change. Evie decides to train as a therapist, and Rob seems to draw away from Artie.
Still, life goes on, as it does, although Artie feels increasingly unleashed from normality. He starts fantasising about suicide.
One night he and Evie are invited to a party at the home of old friends, and the guests include several colleagues. Artie is looking forward to it, but when he gets home he says grumpily to Evie: “I wonder why people never say anything real.”
When Evie asks what he means, he points out that no one referred to the fact that the Davenports’ daughter had recently had an abortion, no one mentioned the Merrill girl was in rehab, no one mentioned the high school principal had been having an affair for at least 10 years.
Evie replies: “Artie, don’t be an idiot. No one at a cocktail party is going to talk about their daughter’s abortion or the affair they’re having. Honestly.”
All this is against a background of Donald Trump – whose name I don’t think is mentioned – running for office for the second time. When he is re-elected – and when he ridicules Volodymyr Zelenskyy in the Oval Office (this novel is extremely current) Artie and his family are distraught.
There follow a series of events which in the hands of a different writer would be sensational but here are downplayed, as Strout does.
One day Rob calls Artie and informs him of a secret that tips his world upside down. He is stunned – how can he have not known this? How can this be the truth? Is he still who he thinks he is?
He realises: everything in the world seems to be filled with unspoken truths; all the things in the world people do not know about each other, even those close to them.
“And he understood that [this] could make a person lonely…”
A shout from the Spectator on the back cover of this fine little hardcover novel says: “Strout gets you to reassess every relationship you’ve ever had while you can still do something about it.”
Something to think about while you’re exploring the map of your world.
- Just afterthis review was published, it was announced The Things We Never Say was one of the baker’s dozen of novel titles longlisted for the 2026 Booker Prize. This is what the judges had to say: “Set in the contemporary United States, Strout’s novel focuses on Artie Dam, a 50-something high-school history teacher in a small coastal town with decent friends and wholesome hobbies. The Things We Never Say quietly unpicks all that, to show that the ordinary is not quite as ordinary as it might seem. Strout’s prose is about as far from a rant as you could imagine, brilliantly understated and all the more powerful for that. It’s a devastating look at the dangerous cracks in family life and in the contemporary world at large.” Strout has previously won a Pulitzer Prize